"Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine"
Ralph Waldo Emerson
At some point in our lives we may feel lost, anxious, confused and sometimes deeply unhappy. We may realise that we are repeating certain patterns of behaviour that are negative or destructive.
Couples may feel that their relationship is ‘in trouble’ and that communicating with each other seems impossible.
Counselling improves health and wellbeing and is available to anyone who feels the need to talk with someone outside of their family or friends without fear of being judged. You do not need to be referred for counselling by your GP.
Engaging in counselling is a personal journey and each session is your ‘space’. There is no ‘one size fits all’ as every person is unique and every person’s issues or goal may be different.
All that is required is a willingness to take a closer look at the things that are troubling you and to be as open and honest as you can be, both with your Counsellor and yourself.
Therapy can be both short term (maybe 6 sessions) or longer term dependent upon your individual needs. They normally take place at regularly scheduled sessions.
A good counsellor will work with you by firstly building trust in the counselling relationship to enable you to feel safe to explore what is around for you.
Hopefully, given the right conditions by your Counsellor, you will then begin to find your own tools to facilitate positive change and opportunities, if that is what you seek. For some, counselling is simply about having the opportunity to be heard. You will be supported and heard with empathy, and where appropriate, safely challenged in your thought processes.
It is worth mentioning that, in my practice, counselling is not about giving advice or telling you how to live your life. It is about working with you in a way that helps to give you a clearer understanding of your situation, offering a genuine empathic understanding.
Many people find the counselling process positively changes their life and feels liberating. Counselling has become far more commonplace in recent years with people feeling more comfortable in seeking a professional to help with emotional and psychological issues. A 2014 survey conducted by BACP suggested that more than a quarter of people (28%) have consulted a Counsellor or Psychotherapist.